Comments on: How much do you spend on a wedding present?

By: Ramhat L

Ramhat L — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 02:50:29 +0000

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By: Honeybee

Honeybee — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 02:14:05 +0000

I guess it depends on how close you are to the couple. I’d spend $ 25 to $ 50 on a gift.

My cousin that I hadn’t seen since he was 2 was getting married 1/2 way cross the country. I’d have to get a flight, hotel, rental car, and a new dress. After allllllll of that expense, I would have no money left and he’d be getting no gift. My presence would have to serve as his present.

Etiquette says you’re never expected to bring/ send a gift, so however much or little you spend doesn’t really matter. Just that you showed up and thought enough to buy them anything.

By: Radzie

Radzie — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 01:19:46 +0000

$ 100 if you are bringing a guest, minimum. It is your choice to fly in to the wedding so I would not give less because of that. I agree you give what you can afford, which is better than nothing.

By: melouofs

melouofs — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 01:17:53 +0000

I’ve heard about the covering your plate guideline, but I never followed that. The couple plans the wedding they want (as they should). I am not there to help defray the costs, I’m there to celebrate their new marriage.

I usually give $ 100-$ 150 as a couple, more if it was family or someone very close. I don’t take my travel expenses into account.

We had a destination wedding and spent about $ 1,000 per person between airfare, hotels, reception. I certainly did not expect to recover that, and I didn’t. That’s not why they were invited.

By: Shelley

Shelley — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 00:54:24 +0000

I have heard it before, but I usually follow the ” give what you can” rule. I’m not getting married till 2010 but I don’t expect my guests to go out and spend $ 100 on us.

When I go to a wedding I give what I can. If money is tight I give $ 20 or$ 25 at the shower then either money or a gift of $ 25-$ 50

If I can afford it I give between $ 75-$ 100 sometimes more if I can and depending how close I am to the person.

While gifts are nice, I don’t want to put any pressure on people to give a large gift or anything at all. Some of the people on my potential gust list are struggling to get by, if they can make it at all that means more to me than anything.

By: D4Pres2012

D4Pres2012 — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 00:35:45 +0000

no, even if you travel, pay for hotel, etc the bride and groom’s gift shouldn’t suffer. you still have to remunerate them for what they’re paying for your meal etc at the reception. min $ 100, $ 200 if you bring a date.

By: grammie

grammie — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 00:35:20 +0000

Where did you get the idea that a buffet style dinner is cheaper than a sit down?? Not here, And you should give about the same amount that the couple spent on your dinner, usually $ 50.00 per person. Unless the wedding was held a someones house. A family style sit down dinner is really preferred, not plated. you spend to much money on plated dinners, and your guest don’t have enough food.

By: Lisa R

Lisa R — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 00:30:23 +0000

I have heard that suggestion as well, but how can you know how much they spent on your meal? I have known of buffets that were $ 35.00 per person and sit down dinners that were only $ 25.00 per plate.

I for one am not about to ask someone how much they are spending per person, so I base the amount of the gift on how well I know the person. Casual friends get less and close friends and family get more. It shouldn’t be more than you can afford.

I just traveled to my nephews wedding, several states away. I would never dream of giving less for a gift because I CHOSE to travel to the wedding.

By: JB

JB — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 00:12:53 +0000

You should spend as much on the present as the couple spent on your meal at the reception. The gift should cover the cost of your food/drinks (unless it’s a cash bar, then just whatever they pay for).

By: A

Sun, 01 Jan 2012 00:01:03 +0000

Spend what you can afford.