Comments on: How hard is it to stay a virgin till marriage?

By: Gen Dnetto

Gen Dnetto — Sat, 01 Oct 2011 04:16:53 +0000

nope, it can be easy.

By: Aaron Ramprashad

Aaron Ramprashad — Sat, 01 Oct 2011 03:50:04 +0000

These days Its near impossible b/c of how everyone is. there is allot more temptation and your natural sex hormones will kick in and when that happens and a tempting man or woman around well one thing will lead to another. If you are really committed which I know a few girls but very few it will be hard and allot of temptation to fight but you can do it. Just during mostly high school make sure you never put yourself in the situation and you will be completely fine and If you make it till marriage its said to be the most amazing thing

By: Dancer16

Dancer16 — Sat, 01 Oct 2011 03:44:55 +0000

i think it is. it depends who you’re with and if you’re in a relationship. If you feel at the time so madly in love that you can see them as your husband anyway then thats when girls who vowed to wait till marriage give it up. (keep in mind thought in every relationship, especially if you’ve only been in a few, you’ll get that feeling like you’re going to marry that person every time so just watch out). If you are serious about it then tell the guy you’re waiting till marriage. if they keep trying to plea or beg you to change your mind then consider walking away from that person because they aren’t respecting what you want now and as time goes on they won’t respect it later on (not unless you guys split up and get back together and you both have learned something).
its really hard to keep because of feelings you get when you’re caught up in moments of passionate kissing and such or even when your friends talk to the group of friends about sex or even just making sexual jokes that you wouldn’t get unless you did it. So theres no pressure from your friends or others to do it but more pressure from you that you feel you have to because you don’t want to be seen as different anymore and want to be part of the group. even if thats a little true it still adds to your decision if you want to keep it or lose it when and where

and if it does happen before marriage the right time will show it self BUT DO NOT FEEL PRESSURED BY ANYONE TO DO IT AND DON’T TELL YOURSELF YOU SHOULD DO IT BASED OFF WHO YOU’RE DATING. you’ll do it when the time is right with the right person in a place you think is comfortable. Otherwise you’ll look back and wish you had done it differently. Its a bigger deal for girls than it is for guys so its up to you

as for parties, just watch out for drinks, even pure juice and water. The older you get the more likely guys have access to drugs that they can slip in your drink that make you blacked out. OR if you drink alcohol and get drunk or even blacked out (blacked out means you don’t remember anything but you did things anyway such as dancing on tables or falling down the stairs, you just can’t remember it) guys can take advantage of the situation and start trying to convince you to leave the party and go with them somewhere private. It doesn’t mean rape but it means its just as unsafe. Yo might be so drunk that you’ll think “whatever! besides this guy is CUUUTE!” and thats because your inabitions are lowered when you drink even 1 shot of something. Then you’ll wake up and feel bad that you thought that way at the time.

my advice on that is: if you’re going to ever drink at parties go to a few parties before with friends that you really trust ( even if its a guy friend you know is just a friend) and have no intention of leaving with anyone but your friends that you trust. Then drink and count how many shots it takes before you throw up (wait 30mins- an hour or an hour and a half between each shot based off what you’re drinking) then you’ll know what you can handle and what is a dangerous point where you start to loose self control. Most girls its not a lot. Mine is 4 so at parties i usually only drink 1 or 2 shots to still be in control of my decisions. That way at parties if a guy is offering you a drink and you know you already had a few you’ll be able to say no AND you wont run the risk of something being slipped in the drink so you wont lose self control. The BESY BEST BEST way to avoid this kind of crazyness is to not drink until your 18 ( which is a LOT easier than waiting till marriage). by 18 everyone has drunk and its not AS big of a deal as it was sophmore or junior year plus you’ll know by waiting till 18 that you can have fun without alcohol and its not a big deal and you’ll have more self control than those who think you cant have fun at a party without drinking.

so watch for drinking at parties to lower a risk of losing it a party drunk and to only have sex when YOU want to and if that means till marriage then you have a set goal in mind.

By: slyfox9

slyfox9 — Sat, 01 Oct 2011 03:06:52 +0000

Not with that mentality. AWESOME! i APPLAUD YOU! I lost mine @ the age of 15 and regret it like 80% of all girls. It makes life a whole lot more complicated with that element applied to your life @ this age. Friends trust me are the better route till you can REALLY no how boys and men are and think, believe me its not what you think AT ALL. take it from a 35 year old thats been there along with MANY other women and young ladies your age. Stay true to yourself cuttie and dont let lust ruin what could have been.

By: Nicolette12764♥

Nicolette12764♥ — Sat, 01 Oct 2011 02:14:16 +0000

Not for me.

You just have to take yourself from where people are having sex and don’t let anyone or anything influence you.

You have to have self-control and have respect for yourself and God to wait and have sex til you’re married.

There has been guys that wanted to have sex with me or expressed something physical with me but I have turned them done because I don’t want to do anything with them.

I am waiting for my future husband and I know that he would appreciate it.

I hope to meet him at church and that he is a virgin too.

I’m 21 by the way.

By: Tired and hopeless...

Tired and hopeless... — Sat, 01 Oct 2011 01:54:02 +0000

Yeah….it’s definitely not hard at all. I’ve been in a 7 years relationship, and i’m 26 years old this year. And i’m still one! I’m not a muslim but i’m an asian. I believe that virginity only comes once in a lifetime. So, i choose to lose it to my future husband. Although i’ve known my bf for 8 years, but u’ll never know what will happen tomoro. Maybe i won’t end up marrying him. So, stick to your mind-set and take good care of yourself! You’re still young. Don’t let others influence u by saying sth like, “u should lose your virginity before u turn 15 kinda stuff”.

By: Mrs. Bouda

Mrs. Bouda — Sat, 01 Oct 2011 01:11:20 +0000

It is difficult. However, if you focus on something else (like education, extracurricular activities and hobbies), your mind would be totally occupied. Honestly, you can not miss what you have never had! I stayed a virgin until after I was married. Although I am older, remaining a virgin until after I was married was the best decision that I ever made (ONLY BY THE GRACE OF GOD). Remain a virgin! The man that you marry will have so much more respect for you. If a guy can not understand that then kick him to the curb, very hard. Your reputation and well being is far more important than something that would not mean anything to him (sex means more to a girl than a guy). GOD Bless!

By: Jbar

Jbar — Sat, 01 Oct 2011 00:58:30 +0000

Good for you! Sex can be a big responsibility with the possibility of pregnancy and STDs, there are so many girls your age that are having babes and missing out on there teen years where you don’t have to bay bills, get a job, worry about food ect. If loosing your virginity is something you want to keep sacred than it wont be hard just stick to your belief on the subject and don’t let people pressure you and if a boy does than he is not worth your time. If you find someone who truly loves you than they will be just fin with waiting till you are ready. good luck and keep up the good work.

By: Ana

Ana — Sat, 01 Oct 2011 00:05:34 +0000

Same deal here. First lets get this straight.

People will say to indulge in your feelings that way, but from what I’ve seen it just results in that person being miserable. Honestly, isn’t it better to stay a virgin until you the know the guy well enough that he won’t just leave you? Even a boyfriend you’re madly in love with might decide that they just don’t want you anymore. My advice, wait until you’ve got a ring on your finger.

Also: It could be way easier or way harder than it sounds to stay a virgin until marriage. Some people are naturally horny while others just don’t feel that way. Sex does sound really scary but trust me, when it comes down to it, if you really love the guy then you’ll totally forget about the pain and it wont hurt as much. Besides, there’s a moment after that pain that will totally make it worth it.

It IS stupid losing your virginity at a party because you’re drunk. There’s also the risk that you’ll get pregnant. Even with birth control, when you’re young you are really REALLY fertile, and a friend of mine got pregnant at sixteen even though she was using birth control and protection.

I’m with you. No sex until I’ve got a ring on my finger!

By: mudpuppy

mudpuppy — Fri, 30 Sep 2011 23:36:53 +0000

@ the person who said this:

easy for girls b/c most girls dont really need sex. most women are satisfied getting laid once a year so it shouldnt be hard at all.

You clearly know nothing!!!!!

Its easier to not have sex if you never have had it. Once you start, ya cant stop!